Is virginity important?
Let’s talk about virginity today. There are lots of misconceptions in the minds of the youth on who a virgin is and its importance in marriage. Does being a virgin make or break marriages?
Marriage is a holy institution and at the same time a covenant. A covenant because God had to cut the man in order to make the woman for him. And each time there is a cut, there is blood which is a clear sign of a covenant.
This makes marriage a lifetime union and one of the things that seals this union is the first time the husband and wife have sex. Why doesn’t God want us to have sex before marriage? Why is sex for only the married? Sex is powerful, sex is not just a mere act of skin to skin, but more spiritual and a mystery than you ever thought. Sex can make and break.
The goal of sex is to make the husband and wife become one, spiritually. Sex binds couples together and makes them stronger in commitment and intimacy. Wives can inherit the traits and behaviour of their husbands and vice versa just after the first time of having sex as virgins. Sex ties souls together. The act of sex is like giving a part of you to the other and taking a part of the other.
This is one of the reasons why God kicks against people who share this deeper level of connection with people they are not married to; besides that, sex has its unique role to play in marriage, not outside marriage.
Your body is made holy for God and your spouse, you make it dirty by sharing it with someone else.
"Have nothing to do with sex sins! Any other sin that a man does, does not hurt his own body. But the man who does a sex sin sins against his own body" - 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NLV).
Again sex is not just physical, it starts from the mind, your thoughts; so lusting after someone, masturbating, lesbianism, watching pornography etc. are all sins against your own body; and these don't define you as a virgin even if no one has penetrated you.
Being a virgin does not only bring honour to you but to your spouse. If everyone, male and female alike, was a virgin before getting into marriage, there wouldn’t be issues about size or someone being satisfied or not.
Being a virgin has more to do with one’s character and if you don't have a good relationship with God, your virginity will be like not eating and pretending to fast when in actual sense you are only starving yourself.
Virgins with bad characters are like cheap clothes with high price tags; they are not worth what they advertise, no wonder their marriages don't work.
But if you have unfortunately lost your virginity to anyone, there is hope for you to become a ‘secondary virgin’. What that means is you pray to God for forgiveness and also pray for the one you committed the act with, make a promise to God to keep yourself for your husband and stick to it.
In conclusion, when two virgins lock horns on the night of their wedding, their meeting can best be described as the place where the sky touches the sea. Wait and experience one.
Please share with your friends, someone out there needs this.
Source: Counselor Frank Adofoli